Dear Our Hope Place,
I went ahead and looked at your website and now I am in tears because of
the letters and testimonials.
My sister Sue, the zaniest and craziest and most fun of my five sisters, has
miscarried seven times. Seven is my last count, she stopped talking openly
about pregnancy after her first miscarriage and withdrew from most of my
siblings at miscarriage number three or four. I miss Sue terribly.
It makes me happy to know Our Hope Place exists.
Just wanted to thank you for your kind words and for the loan of the
"good vibes" bracelet. It must have worked -- we found out late
Thursday that everything is totally fine and that we're having a girl! I
really appreciate your kindness through such a "funky" week.
"I read the write-up in today's Stamford Advocate and I just want you to know how deeply touched I am that you started Our Hope Place
for grieving women. I have been there myself...3 times, unfortunately, but am now on "the other side" with a beautiful 9 week baby girl
sleeping next to me as I type! God bless you both and your work!
"Where were you 16 years ago when I needed this? You can't do this fast enough. For all women, thank you." - Anonymous, NY
"You're the first person to give me hope." - Anonymous, Ct
Share your story with us:
- Let us know how you helped someone who had a miscarriage
- Let us know how someone helped you after your miscarriage
Within My Heart
I lost you within my womb
I never got to fix your brand new room
It seemed our love was a temple of Doom
It never got a chance to bloom
I did not get a chance to hold you
To count your fingers and your toes
There's a place in my heart that will always be sore
I will always want more
You were more precious than a brand new Toy
You were the Joy I always wanted
It didn't matter that you were a boy or a girl
Because you were the pearl within my heart
For the part you played was a peice of art
I carried you beneath my heart for just a little while
But now I carry you within my heart forever
Dear Our Hope Place,
today was a very very hard day. I think I have cried pretty much all day. I just
went back to work last thursday, and some people didnt know where i was, so
they have been asking me where i was and how my pregnancy is going, i cant
even tell them that i lost the baby without crying. (i work @ a bank as a teller)
anyway, i was checking out different post and sent a reply and seen you had
replied also and seen you added your website. I LOVE IT. I am thinking about
getting myself the bracelet. I really think I need something. I lost my baby @ 16
weeks, i had went for my reg checkup to hear the heartbeat and to schedule
my sonogram, but the only sonogram I had was the one so they could confirm
that I lost him...
Sorry, I didnt mean to go on like this. I really just wanted to tell you that I like the
website, I think it was a wonderful thing you did!
Click here or scroll down the page:
Dear Our Hope Place,
Back in 1999, I was pregnant with my second child. Things started out like my first pregnancy, but soon things changed. Every checkup I had, I feared the
worst, but alas, the doctor would always reassure me, and I heard his heartbeat. At 5 months we found out he was a boy, but soon after, at 21 weeks to be
exact, I miscarried. All of my emotions went haywire, I knew I had done something wrong. I was blessed to have the best care and doctor, whom I had never
met before, while I was in the hospital. He reassured me nothing I did made this happen, and said, when I was ready, I would be able to have a normal
pregnancy. He was right, a year and a half to two years later, I became pregnant again, another boy. Now he is a healthy growing six, almost seven year old.
My daughter, who was only 3 at the time still remembers and asks about him, I tell her he is our guardian angel who helps to watch over us. Without the help
of family ,friends,and a great
doctor, I would have not done so well. I just wish this website had been around back then, and if it was, I wish I had known about it.
You all are doing such a fabulous job.......thank you.
Anonymous from Texas
Dear Our Hope Place,
I know the sorrow and pain many have gone through after having had 5 miscarriages myself. We were high school sweethearts and two weeks after my
husband graduated from college, we were married. I was 20 and my husband was 21. We married in June and I was pregnant in August. I went to the doctor
and he confirmed my pregnancy. Back in 1960, there was no home test, you gave the nurse a urine sample and the doctor examined you. Everything was
fine, except I was B neg blood and my husband was A pos, but we were both reassured everything would be ok. I did have a large cyst on my ovary and the
doctor was supprised I got pregnant so easy.
Everything was going good until I was in the second week of my 4th month, the bleeding started. I was put in the hospital and had a miscarriage 3 days later.
The doctor said it was not uncommon to lose a baby. I was pregnant again 3 months later and the same thing happened in the beginning of my 4th month. He
could not find anything wrong with me, but told us not to get pregnant for 1 year. I remember being so depressed and crying most of the time. Thank God my
husband was so strong and caring, he got me through the worst part. We are Catholics and birth control was not an option, so again 2 months later I was
pregnant for the third time. I had to quit my job, stay in bed, take provera, shots every 3 days of dilutin (not sure of the spelling), and vitamin K. I wasn't
allowed out of bed until my 5th month after having cramps most of my 4th month. Prayed a lot to St. Jude.
In my 8th month, my blood pressure was high and had lots of swelling. The doctor was afraid of preclamsia, so back to bed and a special diet. I finally
delivered my first son in May and it was the happest day of our lives. It was a hard delivery and long labor even with pitocin. I did hemmorage after he was
delivered, but all was taken care of and the baby was healthy.
My second son was born 13 months later and I only had to spend the 4th month off my feet and I also took provera. Another healthy baby.
When I got pregnant again 2 years later I had another miscarriage in my 4th month, same time as the 2 previous. We were so very upset, we both wanted a
large family and then I had 2 more miscarriages. I went to see 3 other doctor's for consults to find out what the problem might be, but they said go back to my
first doctor because he had success. I was now 28 and the doctor's started talking about a hysterectomy and I felt I was too young and wanted at least one
more child. I was very depressed and not coming out of the depression as before. I kept thinking about the 5 babies I lost and somehow blamed myself.
I was put on birth control pills for 6 months to ease the heavy bleeding of my periods and painful cramps that lasted 5 days or more.
My last pregnancy I did the same procedure as the first. Same medicine and stayed off my feet as much as possible because I had a 4 and 5 year old. I was
very frightened, but thank God our 3rd son was born in 1969 and we were so thrilled to have 3 children and knew what was ahead. I did have the hysterectomy
in my 30's, but they left 1 ovary because of my age. I had very advanced endrometrios, it was everywhere, they did remove the ovary with the large cyst. But
who knows what really caused the miscarriages. My husband and I still thank God to this day for our wonderful sons.
I know what the women are going through when a miscarriage happens and what it can do to your life, but never give up hope. The worst part was not knowing
why it happened or why me, My friends were all having babies when I was having miscarriages and they just didn't quite understand how I felt. Today there are
many support groups, which I think is wonderful, I never had a chance to talk about it with someone who would understand the pain and dispair. You can
discuss your problems with people who know your feelings and they in turn can express there own.
Today I have 5 grandchildren, see my sons every week, and have a happy retirement. And will always think of the ones I lost, but also know how blessed I was
to have had any children at all and I never gave up hope.
Thanks for reading this long story, Judy.